About Melanie Michele Dillon


 

How long have I been doing what I do, and how did I become a relationship coach?

 

To answer this question, it’s probably best that I share with you a defining moment and a resulting “compelling story” that brought me to where I am today- coaching people like you on exactly what to do to improve your relationships with love money and health. That defining moment in my life happened in 2013.

Another lousy relationship had ended in a drama-filled ball of flames. 

I was barely making ends meet financially. 

I was underpaid and underappreciated for my work. 

I never had enough time to get everything done. 

I was always worried about the future or feeling guilty about the past, what I could have done better.

I never could enjoy the now. Which meant people I loved like my children were not getting my full attention.  I had this unshakable feeling that there was a better way. There was more to life than this.

I was supposed to be doing something else. I couldn’t figure it out.

I felt lost and alone. Life just kept happening to me, and I was left to do damage control. 

As my son approached high school, I made a pact with myself. If I couldn’t find my way after he left for college, maybe it was time for me to leave this world. 

I know that’s pretty harsh, and I don’t suggest that pact for anyone, I didn’t want to die, but it was a relief to know there could be an end to this suffering. This screaming in my heart that life was meant to be enjoyed. That I had a purpose, it was maddening. 

It was at this point that I started to reach out. I always had an interest in alternative medicine, healing, and metaphysics. I started with the alternative medicine to help with my digestive issues and then spoke with a psychic and then a reiki healer. I began to understand that I knew nothing about myself.

I did not trust myself. It was at this point that I slowly began to do the work to know me honestly. What I wanted, what I believed, what was mine, and what were ideas and fears I picked up from others. I learned to trust my intuition. I started to take care of myself inside and out.

To love myself as a whole, the good parts, and the parts I wanted to hide. 

Slowly but surely, I began to live my truth.

All my life, I have wanted to help people. All my life, that’s precisely what I did. I was a people pleaser driven on the guilt that was placed on me or (I grew to do an excellent job of) putting on myself. It started in my childhood, and I never seemed to get a hold of it. So I did what others wanted and needed and not what I wanted and needed. 

As the years went on into adulthood, I continued the same way. I was already on a path, college, marriage, house, children. Although there is nothing wrong with that path, and I wanted that path, how I traveled, it was not the way I wanted to. Significant decisions of what I became, whom I married, where I lived, were all heavily influenced by everyone else, BUT ME. 

Even more, years passed by still nothing seemed to work out, marriages, jobs, it was always living in survival mode or trying to do damage control.  The Years continued, and the shit show of my life continued to be just that. I tried changing everything. I got a divorce; I moved, I found a different job in the field I was educated in, I found a new relationship. Still, everything was the same. The outcomes were the same in every aspect of my life! Wtf! I grew to feel unfulfilled in my jobs. There was never enough money or time. I became discontent with where I lived. Every new romantic relationship was like dating the same emotionally unavailable and at times, downright mean person in a suit of different skin. I tried to change everything that I could think of; nothing worked.

Until I learned to change my relationship with myself inside and out. 

So, I cleaned up my past and started teaching people how they can do the same; I watched as their perspectives changed, their confidence rose, their relationships become healthier and more fulfilling.  I have since committed to dedicating the rest of my professional life to helping other people who are lost and struggling, find their way to a beautiful experience that they were meant to live.

​​Education and Certifications:

B.A. Humanities (Concentration in Psychology)

Certified Elementary School Teacher

Developmental Specialist for Early Intervention (since 2009)

Applied Behavioral Analysis Programmer (since 2010)

Licensed Cosmetologist (wasn't kidding about changing careers)   

Certified Life Coach, American Life Coach Academy

 Certified Usui Shiki Reiki Ryoho levels 1 & 2